A Controversial Take on the Law of Attraction

In 2006, the movie The Secret was released, and a year later, the book followed. It outlined a three-step manifesting technique based on Wallace Wattles’ work:

Ask
Believe
Receive

It’s easily said but hard for many to grasp: The key is to live ‘in the wish fulfilled’ as if the goal has already occurred.

“You must assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled until your assumption has all the sensory vividness of reality”
Neville Goddard

This is where my take on the Law of Attraction may be considered controversial. I believe not everything manifests quickly, or even at all, based on our soul contract. We incarnated on Earth to help humanity, leaving the world better than we found it.

Fate vs Destiny

In Robert Ohotto’s book Transforming Fate into Destiny, we have Mortal Fate and Self Fate.

Mortal Fate

This is the Fate that you often can’t change. It was written into your soul before you came, and most live out as part of your Destiny.

Think of when and where you were born. Your family of origin. Your passions and interests. Etc. Those can’t be changed.

Self Fate

This is the Fate you unconsciously create in drawing ego-fueled, self-made trials to yourself.

Think of not listening to your inner voice. Acting upon triggers. Taking actions you KNOW are not in your best interest. Etc. These are the blocks we put on our own path.

Destiny

Destiny is learning to work with your challenges so that you can be who and what you truly are (because there’s simply nothing else you can be), and then yoking this “being” into service to the collective world or others around you.

Think of getting centered, quiet, meditating, etc., and then following your intuition to live your best life.

What is the Law of Attraction

Rhonda Byrne’s (author of The Secret) definition of The Law of Attraction is:

The Law of Attraction states that when we want something, we need to send our desire for it out into the universe and stay very positive (which will increase our energy frequency) to draw our desired outcome to us.

Like the Silva Method’s Holographic Viewing technique, in the Alpha state (hence why meditation is important), you envision the end result in 3D. Feel it. See it. Believe it.

Why Manifesting Isn’t Always Instant

You must be a vibrational match to your desire; sometimes, that takes time.

Let me give you a few personal examples.

INSTANTLY

I was in a grocery store, standing at the cash register, waiting for my turn with my hands overloaded. I have several dozen bags in my car, but of course, I didn’t bring one into the store. I thought, “It would be great if I had a produce bag as they have handles to hold these items.” No sooner had I finished when I turned my head to the right to see one sitting on the confectionary stand beside me. I said, “Thank you.” to the Universe.

THE NEXT DAY

January 2024, I created a new style of vision board. As Above, So Below. The top half is what I wanted to manifest externally. The bottom half is how I wanted to grow, heal, shift, feel, etc., internally, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

I thought activating it with crystals would be fantastic, but I didn’t have small crystals. I planned to look on Amazon for some tiny ones. Before I had a chance to, I happened to be shopping at Dollarama. I always check every aisle for new products. As I scanned the arts and crafts, I spotted a box with twelve small glass bottles holding crystal stone chips. Perfect for the board. I glued tiny pieces of citrine, amethyst, green aventurine, etc. all over.

A FEW WEEKS

Last winter, when I was assisting at The Silva Method, I decided to put the Mental Texting technique to the test. George isn’t romantic in the classical sense, and I decided I wanted flowers for Valentine’s Day. Every day, I would send him a telepathic message that I would love to receive flowers on February 14th. Then, on Valentine’s Day, George stated he was going shopping at Costco and asked for the grocery list. I thought nothing of it. He came home with not one, but two, bunches of flowers. One for me and one for my daughter. [WATCH VIDEO]

A DECADE

I know no one wants to hear this one, but sometimes your archetypes, beliefs, etc., need to be dismantled and rebuilt before you are ready for your desire to come to fruition. My story is about my love relationships.

I was in a co-dependent marriage that wasn’t allowing me to become self-actualized in that container of a relationship. I decided I wanted an interdependent relationship. This is where the expression ‘Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it’ comes from. To have a healthy, interdependent love relationship, I had to get a divorce and do a lot of shadow work (inner healing). It was only then I was ready to meet George and have a wonderful friendship, partnership, and love.

All of that took a decade. My life had to fall apart first before I could slowly put my life back together in a way that was for my highest good (and for the highest good of those around me).

POSITIVITY

One thing many believe is that you are to remain positive all of the time so you don’t attract ‘bad’ things. We are meant to feel and experience all emotions as humans, including joy, anger, love, grief, etc. I chose to lean into my sadness during the divorce, vs. pushing down my feelings, and go through the experience instead of struggling. I believe it helped hasten the process, as I didn’t fight against it.

You do not have to vibe high all of the time to manifest what you desire. You do have to maintain the belief that it will manifest, and the obstacles on your path are part of the journey. Hold steadfast in your desires and watch your life change in magical ways.

“Fate is the hand you are dealt. Destiny is how you play them.”
Robert Ohotto

LIFE

Helene Hadsell stated it in the title of her book, The Name It & Claim It Game. Life is a journey. Not a destination, so play, create, love, connect, etc. Experience all the GLAD-SAD-MAD life has to offer, hold fast to your dreams as they will come true, and watch them manifest in ways you could never imagine.

What are your beliefs surrounding The Law of Attraction?